How Reiki Helps in the Surgery & Recovery Process

In my previous article, I wrote about my surgery and the healing of my Sacral Chakra.

I am so glad that I have solid energy work tools and social networks on which I could rely to help me prepare for my surgery, and with which I am recovering at lightening speed!   Here's how I have used Reiki in my process:

Before surgery:

• My Reiki and spiritual journey have helped me uncover emotional issues and mental & behavioural patterns that have contributed to my state of dis-ease.   
• Energy work helped me gather life-force energy in my system so I wouldn't feel depleted after surgery.
• I used distance Reiki to send energy to the operating room and to all medical staff and hospital volunteers, so that I (and all other patients) would receive optimal care and nurturing.
• I the hour prior to surgery, I self-treated to prepare my body and my aura for the process.  It also helped me stay calm and focused, keeping the pre-surgery jitters at bay!

During surgery:

• Friends, clients and students sent Reiki to myself and the medical staff so that everything goes well and according to plan.  
• Just before anaesthetics, I felt very well surrounded and comforted.

After surgery:

• Reiki helps detoxify the body from the chemicals used.
• It reduces the need for pain killers (I've barely used any, and had no cramping at all!)
• Healing on all levels is quicker.
• I recuperated my healthy energy levels very quickly - I was even able to exercise lightly the day after surgery!
• Recovery is more joyful.

Will you or a loved one be undergoing surgery in the near future?  Ask me how we could put together a plan to nurture and support vital life force energy!  Of course -- this does not replace proper medical care!  Reiki and Energy Work complement licensed medical and psychological care.

Last week, I had surgery

I had been expecting this surgery for a while now.  Part of me was looking forward to the relief in physical and emotional pain; while an other part of me was dreading it.  Now, it’s done.  And I feel good.

This is the ongoing story of my Sacral Chakra.

In everyone, the Sacral Chakra governs creativity, joy, sensuality, and enthusiasm.  The choices we make about how we enjoy our life experience, how we enjoy our bodies, how we enjoy creating, playing, and experiencing all that life has to offer…  all these choices influence the health and vitality of our Sacral Chakra.  I have a history of making choices that are not very life-affirming.  And I am changing that!

In my childhood, I learned how difficult friendships can be.  I learned that is was safer to keep my true thoughts and feelings to myself.  I learned lots about rejection, ridicule, and shame.  These stories continued in my teenage years, where my calm sense of confidence was really hiding a need to please, to be accepted, to be valued - but at the same time, I could never be just ME.  I learned about anxiety and panic attacks.  By the time I entered my twenties, resentment, victimization and anger had built to a boiling point.  I gave up a lot of what made me truly happy, like dancing and travelling.  I chose to be serious, get a boyfriend, have a real job, get married, get a house…  My mind built a plan - and it did not matter with whom these things happened, as long as I could check these off the list of to-do’s and gain a certain feeling of accomplishment.

Then I learned that feelings of accomplishments can leave one feel very empty and depleted.  When the mind’s plan does not take emotions into considerations — it’s a half-baked plan.  I hated my relationship.  I hated my job.  I hated my body.  I hated my family.  I hated myself.  Big - huge! - downward circle of negative emotions.  And with the feelings of loneliness and abandonment I’ve had since childhood, I felt as if there was no one I could turn to.  So these negative energies grew, simmered, festered.

When energies like that are not addressed in the spiritual, intellectual, then emotional aspects of the physical experience, they start manifesting as deep and chronic physical distress.  My natural cycle went hay-wire and I no longer could depend on its regular rhythm.  Fertility became an issue.  In my early thirties, I received three surgeries to help relieve the pain of the diseased organs.  But there was a lot of emotional gunk that also needed to be cleared.  Thankfully, that’s when I started on my own spiritual path of healing and was able to uncover and release several patterns that had plagued me for several years.

Now in my forties, I feel stronger.  And I feel my strength does not come from a place of confrontation, but from a place of inner peace.  I can find harmony and joy in every day.  I have forgiven many of my past traumas, and I’ve learned valuable life lessons. I’ve made some tough decisions like leaving a job where I felt like an emotional and mental zombie, with bursts of uncontrollable waterworks.  Now, I choose to end the struggle.  I choose to reclaim my power.  I choose to be truthful to my best, most divine, self.  I choose to walk in peace.

This surgery last week removed the interior lining of my womb.  As I did energy work in preparation for this procedure, I imagined the removal of the layers of poor choices I’ve made through my life.  I imagined layers of pain being burned away and purified.  I saw myself rising stronger, healthier, and more vibrant than ever before.  I let go of wounds and pain that were weighing me down in my journey.  I also offered this procedure as some sort of “human sacrifice” whereby through me and the continued energy work I do, others can also clear old wounds, feel uplifted, and reconnect to what makes them feel happy and fully alive.

I also choose to become better at receiving.  In preparation for my surgery and recovery process, I gratefully accepted good vibes, energy work, Reiki, and prayers from friends, family members, and my growing community of clients and students.  I felt very well surrounded, energetically, as I underwent the procedure.  I credit my speedy recovery to all the good vibes I received!  Compared with the surgeries I received 10 years ago - there was no dizziness post-anaesthetics, no pain, no cramping, no emotional upheaval…  only peace, vitality, and joy!

Energy work ROCKS!  It makes my heart sing!

Looking ahead from here, which feels like yet an other turning point in the spiral of life, I know I still have some tough choices to make to feel even more aligned to my Truth and my Joy.  And yet, I know I have the inner strength, the inner resources, AND the external support to move forward with even more grace, confidence and true lasting happiness.

I am wishing you all blissful health and harmony, on all levels of your being.

Is your mind blocking your intuition?

Now that the dust is settling a bit on the newness of 2016, I feel it’s time to complete the series on how to increase the effectiveness of your intuitive readings.  It will help you set the intentions you want to manifest with a clear mind and soulful purpose!

Here are the rules we covered so far that can make a big difference in your Intuitive Readings using your pendulum, Oracle cards, and any other spiritual tool:

Rule #1: I am the Queen of my life experience

Rule #2: Productive Questions are everything

Rule #3: The mind is the servant

This week’s topic is so important: being aware of mind traps will help you increase the accuracy of your readings because this awareness will help you realize when your mind is controlling the session, and when real intuition is actually flowing.

What does it look like, when the mind is controlling the session?  Here’s what I often see in my clients:

• They are obsessed with an outcome.  Their mind has decided on a solution to their situation, and they are unwilling to let go of it - even if they are asking for intuitive validation.  For instance, one client was so obsessed with validating that this person was “the one”, the soulmate, the twin flame…  that she actually started stalking the object of her desire.  Her mind interpreted any sign of life as a sign of destiny.  Every action and interaction would serve to rationalize her obsession.  The question of every session was, “Tell me that this is the one.”  You see, when you keep asking the same question every day…  it’s a sign that your mind is obsessed and not truly open to receiving intuitive insights.  It just wants to be right with whatever solution it came up with.

• They ask the same question over and over again, or ask about the same possible outcome, to several psychic counsellors or using all their intuitive tools: this is also a sign of mind obsession.  You might think you want to gain clarity, but all this asking actually creates confusion and mind fog, and this mind fog can keep you from taking a step in the direction of your highest good.  It’s like one of my students who wanted to know if she would get a specific job.  She asked me for insights, then she asked her pendulum, then she read her own cards, then she asked someone else, the she asked her pendulum again…  and became very frustrated that she couldn’t get a clear answer.  She became obsessed with asking her intuition for “the definite answer”…  and meanwhile forgot to take action steps such as following up with those who interviewed her, or staying open to other opportunities.

• They fall asleep or start daydreaming about a gazillion other things when trying to do intuitive work.  This is usually a sign that the mind doesn’t want you to know what the real issue is all about, because it’s afraid of your reaction if you find out.  Somehow deep inside, you want to protect yourself from an emotionally charged reaction, so your mind is using the old, “Look -squirrel!” method.  I have students who tend to always fall asleep during specific meditations to uncover blocks; and we know that it’s not because they’re tired!  I also have clients that start rambling about their children, or their mother, or this clutter in the home when I ask them about a specific block.  The distractions keeps them from discovering their truth.


Can you relate to any of these mind traps?  Here are a few tips to help you move beyond the mind to truly tap into your intuition.

• Assess why you want to gain intuitive insights in the first place: is it to validate a hunch? Because you’re curious?  Because you want to know you’re right in doing what you do? Because using your intuitive tools makes you feel like you’re doing something…  while actually avoiding taking real-world action toward your goal?  Exercising discipline and doing some reflective work before reaching for your psychic tools can actually bring you a lot more insights and self-knowledge than a mind-driven session.

• Ask yourself if you really want to know the answer, even if it’s not what you expect.  Do you feel that a different solution, perspective or approach would derail you?  Then your mind is in the driver’s seat - it’s up to you if you want to claim back your power.

• To prevent you from falling asleep, keep your eyes open when you dowse or meditate.  Keep your body busy by dancing or walking while meditating, or do a cardio session before your intuition work.

• Practice discipline, and once you ask a question…  wait before asking the same question again!  If you feel you need to ask the same question several times a day, or week, or month…  there are blocks to truth hidden in there.  I can help you uncover them as you flex your self-confidence muscles.


I trust this series of articles on asking masterful questions has helped you increase the accuracy and depth of your personal readings.  I so enjoy reading your emails and comments about your progress and “a-ha” moments!

Now, what I’d really love to know is if you’re interested in learning more about your intuition skills and about energy work.  The Intuition Development Program starts in person on March 2nd, and it’s such a fantastic program I’m always excited to offer it!  I’d love to teach it online as well, and I know that my intuition tells me it’s time to do so…  I’d like to know if you’re interested in taking an online program with me, and what day of the week would work best for you.  Could you send me an email or message me if you’re interested?  Thanks!

Happy New Year! Intuitive Insights for 2016

In my last article, I talked about the Solstice and a few of the practices I love to do at this time of year.  I take advantage of the long nights to go within and reflect.  I dance, I paint, I read Tarot.  This year, Universe even had the sense of humour to send me the flu to make sure I took time off and rested - gee, thanks Universe!

I never know what my paintings will look like, what colours will be prominent, and what the message will be.  I just tune in, pick up my brushes, paint and see the result unfold - at the same time I receive messages from my Higher Self and my Guides.  This year, I was quite surprised that the colour scheme was so bright and yellow, although the night sky is on the baby's cloak whereas it was the main colour for previous years.

Here's an overview of my paintings - and of my spiritual evolution - since 2012 (from left to right, top to bottom).  Do they resonate with you, too?

So, what are the messages for 2016?

I am looking forward, and at the same time am a little bit nervous (ok, I'll admit I'm a little scared!) of what this year will bring.  Why?  Because it's brand new energy - and we can't embody this new energy the same way we've been living with the "old" energy.  This is the year of being born again and although this is very exciting with so many new opportunities presented to us, it also means we need to learn to surrender to the Divine.  Since the Solstice, I received many messages that the Divine is ready to support and nurture us as we grow and transform -- but we need to accept this help through the act of surrender.  And damn that's a tough thing for me to do!  I'm more often than not in my head, planning, thinking, learning, holding back mentally until I know it's safe to proceed...  Allowing myself to be taken care of is new and very foreign, and I'm not sure I'm going to like it; at least that's what my head says.

Since 2012, many of us have been hearing the call to change.  Many of us have actually made significant changes in our lives, on so many levels.  For me, it was quitting my government job to start my spiritual work full-time.  For others, it was ending relationships, changing jobs, trying new spiritual practices, dealing with emerging health issues...  It felt like a lot was happening, yet at the same time everything was on hold.  You could feel the great potential, and yet the time was not quite ripe yet to get the anticipated results. Can you relate? Well, the time is now.  What was on hold will unblock.  What you have sowed these past few years, you will harvest. No wonder I had a bit of the flu and stayed in bed for almost 3 days, sleeping.  My body was resting from all that journey and getting ready to embody this new energy!

When I look at the series of paintings, I clearly see the evolution from feeling lost, making my way "home", finding the portal and taking a whole year transitioning through, ready to manifest magic and miracles... and now having fully arrived but wrapped up and needing to be taken care of as I grow in strength and wisdom.

Notice that the blanket has 11 stars along with the Triple Moon on the crown, and look at all the guides shaping up to receive us and help us grow!  This year, we are asked to grow our awareness of, and our relationship with our Guides and spiritual mentors, and especially with the Goddess.  This year, we are asked to consider ourselves as apprentices to the Divine - and this means discipline, focus, and application of our spiritual tools.  We need to find the help we need to understand and apply our spiritual gifts.  We must take the time to meditate, to look for signs, to ensure we are energetically aligned with what we do.  We must be vigilant about our own self-sabotaging and aware of our patterns of resistance, so that we can stop those behaviours and become more receptive and open to Spirit.

Notice also the prominence of the colour golden yellow.  This is a masculine colour and it vibrates with the Solar Plexus Chakra.  It is a joyful colour, and it stimulates us to action.  It is the colour of the Divine Masculine, our power centre, our time to shine and to say, "hey, world, here I am, and I'm ready to shine so I can happily serve for the highest good!  I'm ready to contribute my gifts!"

This year, we will likely be presented with many challenges to help us balance our feminine and masculine energies.  We need to cultivate our ability to listen to our spiritual insights, AND implement them.  We need to rest AND take action.  We need to surrender AND keep journeying forward.  We need to seek how to serve the highest good AND ensure our own true needs are met.  We might travel AND cocoon.  We need to find the help that is required for us to fulfill our soul's mission.  Our actions will be questioned; our lifestyle might go topsy-turvy; we might experience ups-and-downs of radiant joy and heavy resentments and anger...  Ah! Transformation!

In numerology, this year resonates with "9" (2+0+1+6=9).  This means we are at a year of completion.  Many cycles will come to a head or to an end.  You will see the results of your efforts and work from the past 3 years.  It's a year of karma where you will experience the consequences of past actions and decisions.  You don't like what you see?  Don't blame others/society/your upbringing...  see where you can take responsibility for your own actions and choices, and plan to do something new and better for the next cycle.

The more we resist the changes, the more difficult life will be.  If you can develop your resilience through meditation and mindfulness, then it will be a year of extreme growth, learning and transformation.  You get to choose how you will experience this new energy!

How?  Here are a few ideas:

• Often, when we go through a big transformation process, we don't feel like moving.  There is the risk for weight gain and health issues linked to a sedentary lifestyle.  When we don't move our bodies, our emotions and thoughts can't filter through our energy field; instead, they stagnate.  Our body becomes unable to hold on and embody the new energy, and we become sick or depressed.  For your overall wellbeing and for your spiritual development, consider sticking to an exercise routine.  It doesn't need to be complicated, but make sure to get a good cardio workout on a regular basis.
  
• New thoughts and perceptions have a hard time germinating in a stiff body - so stretch your body every day!  Stretch mindfully, affirming that as you stretch your body, you also stretch your ability to receive new insights, or to embody new energy.
  
• Practice a few inverted poses, like downward dog, and keep your eyes open as you do so.  See the world from a new angle; it will help sharpen your mind and creativity!
  
• Open yourself to new experiences.  Try new foods.  Try a new haircut or colour.  Change the route you take to work or to the grocery store.  Buy some fruit or veggie you never tried before, and taste it.  Join a new social group or volunteering organization.  It will destabilize your taste buds or your routine for a short while, but will do you much good by teaching you about how you can handle change.  Your resilience muscles will be strengthened!
  
• Consider taking classes and workshops that will hone your spiritual skills.  Find a mentor or two.  I offer a wonderful coaching program and amazing classes and workshops.  I'd love to journey with you.  Click HERE to explore your needs and how I can best support you.
  
• Want to clear old karma and patterns of choices that aren't serving your highest good?  Consider booking a Soul Profile & Realignment session, where we'll explore your soul's matrix, your gifts, and clear some old negative stories your soul has been holding on to.  

I am surrounding you in Love, and wishing you much Joy in this new year.  Remember to be very gently with yourself this year - great changes and great possibilities are available to you, but it's all about the baby steps!

Merry Winter Solstice 2015!

Are you ready for the new energy coming our way?

I love this night, the longest night of the year.  I find it mysterious, empowering, challenging an exciting!

For the past few years, the Winter Solstice not only marks a change in season - it's officially winter even though it's the warmest and rainiest December I've experienced - it also marks a change in energy.  I used to think that the whole Solstice, Aztec Calendar, 2012 predictions, Stonehedge ceremonies were just a bunch of New Age hocus pocus...  but then I noticed.  I noticed the subtle and not-so-subtle changes in my life that are seeded at the Solstice.  I noticed my change in outlook.  I noticed my change of energy.  I noticed the changes in my clients, colleagues and friends.  I experienced major shifts in my energy work, with more Guides, more precise energy, more confidence.  Strong with this experience, I now consider this night very special and holy indeed.

I love how this night is quiet - and yet is filled with energy.  If you really stop to listen, you might just hear your Guides speaking to you.  You might just hear messages from your animal spirit tribes.  You might hear love notes from deceased loved ones.  This is a night of deep magic.  This is a night of hope and love and learning.  This is such a special night to connect the different pieces of you that you've tried to hide but are now holding you back.  This is a night of healing.

As I write this, I see the ancient Egyptian Goddess Isis coming forth with her deep blue wings, opened wide to welcome you in her embrace.  She is ready to help you on your journey to feeling whole, spiritually connected, empowered.  You only need to accept her Love and her help.

In her mythology, she travelled up and down the Nile River to find the pieces of her husband, the God Osiris, who had been dismembered by his vengeful brother in a struggle for the Egyptian throne.  Isis found all the pieces, created the first mummy, and the first mummification ritual to bring Osiris back to life.  In doing so, she also brought back Light (Osiris is the Sun God) and order to the Kingdom.  Hers was a journey of Love, of service, and deep life-giving magic for the highest good of all.  I love that she is stepping forward to be our guide this year!  She is one of the most ancient and powerful goddesses; let's get ourselves ready to work with her!

How?  Here are a few ideas:

• Give yourself some quiet time to reflect on pieces of you that you have left behind due to pain, shame, or the need to fit in.  Is it a funky, spunky part of your personality?  Is it your inner rebel?  Is it the part of you that truly believes in magic?  The part of you that believes in true love? Write about it in a journal, or draw a picture, or paint what this piece means to you.  Then close your eyes, and ask for help to make peace and find forgiveness.  Know that you are now strong enough to reintegrate that piece of you in your current life.  See yourself bringing that piece of you in your body.  Where does it fit?  Your heart?  A chakra?  Breathe it in, feel it... and take time to rest.  Now that you acknowledge that piece of you, what is possible for you?
• Put on your favourite music, and move your body!  Dance!  Too often, we allow our minds to direct our life...  for just a few songs, allow for your heart and your spirit to move you.  Find balance as you integrate your body, your spirit, your soul.  Enjoy your body and how it moves.  Speak lovely things to your body.  Listen for its wisdom.
• Light a deep blue candle in a gold dish.  Burn incense.  Meditate on your biggest dream, your biggest desire.  Ask for the courage and strength to find all the pieces of the puzzle, all the resources you need, and the wisdom to see your dream or desire manifest.  Remember that your quest will include action, not just wishful thinking.  Ask about your next right action step, listen for the answer, and DO IT.

Enjoy this special night and all the nurturing energies that are coming forth to help you to your own greatness.  Always remember your beauty and your magic.  Always remember that you are not alone on your journey, even though it might feel like it on the darkest of nights.  Walk through this new energetic portal with grace, and with a new feeling of wholeness and enchantment.

Do you need some extra help?  I'd love to help you uncover pieces of you that you've buried so deep you don't even remember what they are.  They hide under beliefs and patterns.  They might feel heavy or sluggish in your chakras.  They might feel like empty space in your heart.  See what can shift in a session with me.  Click here to book.

I am surrounding you in Love, and wishing you much Joy in this new year.

Rule #3 for asking masterful intuitive questions

I love the feedback I am receiving from the last two articles - I’m glad that the Rules for mastering Intuitive Readings are useful to you!  Keep sending your comments and questions; they help keep me motivated to write more.  Sometimes, I feel I’m writing to roomful of crickets which is the downside to online business, lol.  Might be part of my ego-mind, but I like feeling that I’m making a difference, don’t you?  So on that note, here are the rules that can make a big difference in your Intuitive Readings using your pendulum, Oracle cards, and any other spiritual tool:

Rule #1: I am the Queen of my life experience

Rule #2: Productive Questions are everything

Are you ready for Rule #3?  Here's the scoop:

The mind is the servant

Meditate with this quote, attributed to Albert Einstein: “The intuitive mind is a sacred gift and the rational mind is a faithful servant.  We have created a society that honours the servant and has forgotten the gift.”

Are you ready to remember your gift?  My guess is that you are, since you're here reading this message.  But like many, you might have an internal struggle going on, because you might believe that putting the rational mind back in the service of your imagination and intuition means that you have to have a blank mind when you meditate, or worse, to give up on logic to become spiritual.  Fear not, for this is not true!

The ideal relationship between gift and servant is one of cooperation and mutual support, where each one draws on the strength of the other.  The intuitive mind can not do its work when it is overly controlled by logic.  The rational mind can not help you come to grounded and useful conclusions if it is governed by flights of fancy from pure dreaming or channelling energy.  They both work together to gather information from the spiritual and the physical worlds, so you can remain balanced, calm, and a manifestor extraordinaire!

When I meditate, I like to take a walk, or garden, or even do the dishes.  I find that when my rational mind is busy with a repetitive task, my intuitive mind can more easily travel.  Repetitive tasks can become very refreshing and insightful!

I tell my clients to give a name to their ego or thinking brains, because it helps to gain perspective and to find more creative solutions.  When the rational mind pops in with the grocery list, or fear-based thoughts, or that whole list of to-dos…  I simply say, “Thank you Professor Thinks-A-Lot, for alerting me to this issue.  Now, please take your clipboard and inventory all the good reasons and methods to bring me to my objective.”  Try it, and let me know how this works for you!

How does this apply to your Intuitive Readings?  With these principles:

• When you meditate or connect with your spiritual tool, your mind does not have to be perfectly calm. It has a job to do: to ask questions.  It becomes a private investigator uncovering the next right question to ask while your Higher Self and Spirit provide the answers.  (See Rule #2 to guide your question-finding quest)

• The optimal state of mind for Intuitive work is relaxed, calm, but alert; it is NOT a deep meditative state.  You should be able to remain aware of your environment and remain focused even if the cats jumps on your lap, the dog barks at a squirrel, or your kid comes in with an after school question.  I’m speaking from experience, here! 

• Remember that intuitive information is at all times driven by your intention.  Be aware of any agenda from your ego, or of the need to prove yourself right.  That will totally skew your results.  Also, because the voice of Spirit is softer than the voice of the ego, you’ll find that the mind will trump true intuitive insights if you are attached to the answer or the outcome.  

• Before you start, ask yourself why you want to tap into your intuition.  If you’re doing the work only out of curiosity - because you want to know what dress you were wearing in a past life, or what might happen in a potential situation, or what someone else might be thinking of you…  then you’re not looking for wisdom.  You are devaluing your gift by using it as entertainment.  Exercise discipline, and train yourself to ask for practical information you can use in your daily life.

I’ll give you more tips on this Rule, focusing on mind traps, in my next article.  Until then, I am surrounding you in White Light and Divine Love.

Are you already seeing results and shifts in your Intuitive Readings by applying these Golden Rules?  Let me know!

Rule #2 for mastering intuitive readings: Productive Questions are Everything

In my last article, I wrote about Rule #1 of Intuitive Readings, to help you work with more precision when asking for intuitive insights from your pendulum, Oracle cards, and any other spiritual tool.  If you’ve missed it, read it here:

Rule #1: I am the Queen of my life experience

Are you ready for Rule #2?  Here's the scoop:  productive questions are EVERYTHING.

When working with spiritual tools, the quality of the information we receive is at all times determined by the quality of the questions we ask.  The quality of our intuitive work is also directly impacted by our mental and emotional state of being.

I had a good laugh with one of my students recently.  We were talking about the various rules and laws of magical manifestation when she had one of those sudden flashes of wisdom.  It sounded like, “OMG this is SO TRUE!”  She shared that a while back she was using her Tarot cards to receive answers to a particular situation - but she was so anxious and agitated that every card she picked seemed to amplify and demonstrate her anxiety.  Out came the Tower Card, the Death card, swords, broken hearts, upheaval...  She came into her intuitive session thinking that her world was in chaos… and the cards kept showing her chaos.  Has this ever happened to you?

So remember Rule #1 - you are in charge of creating your reality.  If you strongly believe that the world is chaos, Spirit will not argue with your belief and will show you chaos.

And here’s the thing about Rule #2: if your thoughts and emotions are in chaos… so will the answers you will receive.  If you ask vague questions, you will receive vague answers.  If you ask about things you have absolutely no clue about how it works,  or no control over the outcome, the answers will not serve you well in the practical side of life.

Therefore:

• If you cannot define it, do not ask about it!  Remember high school math when you needed to define the value of “x” for the equation to make sense?  The same principle applies here.  If you don’t know what concepts such as “better for me”, “optimal”, “highest good”… etc… mean to YOU — then do your homework first and define them.  (Remember the exercise in the last article where you needed to define in great detail what being the Queen of your life would feel and look like BEFORE the dowsing work?  That is how you apply Rule #2!)
• Do not ask questions about things you do not control, such as how someone will react to your decision, what someone will think of you, how the stock market will react, etc.  It's really none of your business.  I'll explain more on this in the next article.
• Remain ethical, and to do not ask about how to make others see things your way.  That includes how to influence your child to follow your desire for him/her…  Often parents - including parents of adult children - tell me that they want to know how to make their son forgive this other person, or how to make their daughter stop a self-destructive behaviour, or how to make their child choose a different college...  I know it's tough - but your adult children have their own path, and their own karma to deal with.  Reframe your question instead on how you could best support them in what they are going through.  What would help you be more loving, centred and accepting of differences?  Lead by example.  If you lead by chaos and drama...  yes, that's what others will pick up in you, and that's what you will find amplified.  Spiritual guidance always starts with the self.
• Practice asking very specific questions!  The more specific you are in your questions, the more specific your answers will be.  See and feel the difference between these questions:  “Is this activity good for my business?”  vs. “Will this specific activity help increase my revenue by 20% in the month of December 2015?”  ...  "Is this essential oil good for me?" vs. "Can this essential oil help reduce my symptoms of (...)?"  Capice?
• If you’re in a state of panic…  practice self-care FIRST.  Be centred, calm, and detached from any answer you might receive before picking up your spiritual divination tool.

I’ll write about Rule #3, dealing with mind matters, in my next article.  Until then, I am surrounding you in White Light and Divine Love.

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