Are you breaking Rule #1 for asking powerful questions for intuitive insights

We’ve all been there.  Thinking of changing jobs.  Totally frustrated with our love life.  Heartbroken.  Confused.  Directionless.  So so deeply wanting to be comforted and being told that we’re on the right path, doing the right thing, taking the right decision.

We want our spirit guides, the angels, God and Goddess to tell us what to do next.  We promise to do as they say… could they just not give a clear to-do list?  We don’t take action because we are waiting for Spirit or Universe or “them” to give us permission.

So many students and clients tell me how frustrated they are that their pendulum, Oracle Card, or crystal “doesn’t work” and gives them confusing answers.  Or they tell me that a psychic once told them that they should do this or that, and that it didn’t work.  They ask questions like these:

... Should I take this class?  Should I stay in this relationship?  Should I apply for this job?  Am I supposed to go on this trip?  Will I find love one day?  Can I afford this?…  

These questions break so many rules!

Here’s what I learned: no one — NO ONE — holds your map of destiny except for YOU.

This means that you get to choose what you want to experience, and then work with Spirit to figure out the how.  Here’s the deal: when you ask questions with, “Should I”; “Am I supposed to”; “Can I” or “Will I”…  what is happening at soul level is that you are abdicating your authority over your life!  You are asking someone else, or an oracle tool, to choose or decide for you.  You are breaking rule #1 of Intuitive Readings:

Rule #1: I am the Queen of my life experience

So then, as the Queen — or Goddess, King, CEO — of your life experience, what questions could you ask that would be more powerful and insightful?  Try this exercise.

Taking back your power exercise

1. Light a candle, play soft music, burn incense…  do what you need to do to feel zen.
2. Brainstorm on what it would be like to truly be the Queen of your life.  How would you feel?  What would a perfect day look like?  Who would be surrounding you?  What would be the state of your finances?  How would your home or work environment be like?  Describe in as much detail as possible.
3. List at least five (5) possible ACTIONS you could take THIS WEEK to bring yourself to this state of awareness and being-ness. 
4. Take your favourite Oracle tool (pendulum or muscle testing would work best).  Breathe and centre yourself, then ask the following questions:

Given that it is my intention to experience myself as the Queen of my life experience…

• Is [name or number of the listed action] in alignment with manifesting my intention this week?

• Is any of these actions more aligned to manifesting my intention than the others?  Which one?  Is it [Action name of number]?

• Do I give myself permission, at a soul level, to proceed with this chosen action?

5.  Follow up with your personal reading, and TAKE ACTION!

6.  Share your insights and your results - let’s inspire each other!


I’ll write about Rule #2, dealing with clarity of intention, in my next article.  Until then, I am surrounding you in White Light and Divine Love.

PS.: Did you want to learn more about trusting your intuition and using Oracle tools?  Take a look at my Intuition Development Program.  Offered online starting in 2016.

Is fear holding you back from developing your intuition?

I’ve been talking to many wonderful women recently about intuition.  I’ve given several women (and a few men) their very first Intuitive Reading or Reiki Session.  I love their honesty when they come up to me and say, “It’s my first time, and I’m a bit afraid.”  It takes courage to try something new, and to do something that’s a bit scary.  I’m truly honoured to have shared this moment of their first official intuitive experience.

One of the things I am passionate about is talking with people about this fear they have of intuitive experiences.  I love talking about it because it’s something I’ve had to overcome, and I discovered how sweet, creative, and joyful life can be once you realize that intuition is not scary at all.  Like many, I once imagined that only a turban-wearing, heavy-makeup’d, gypsy- hippie- or witchy-looking person spending hours gazing in crystal balls (or worse, fish entrails) and smelling heavily of patchouli was an “intuitive/psychic”.  I thought that only bubbly, ill-educated, and emotionally manipulative people would assert themselves as being psychic.  And then, of course, there was my Catholic upbringing and the ingrained “fear of the devil”…  Thank goodness I discovered that being intuitive and psychic doesn’t have to be like that!  I find it funny now when people tell me, “You’re psychic?  But you look so grounded and normal!”

Yes, I am normal.  (Whatever that is, lol!)  And tapping into your intuition is normal, too.  It’s absolutely natural, and I believe everyone can do it.  I can teach you how.

The first thing I really want you to know is that you are powerful.  You have free will.  At every moment of every day, you are responsible for creating your life experience through your choices.  You can choose your thoughts, your emotions, and your perceptions.  You can choose how you create your life.  To me, this journey with intuition is first and foremost this journey of personal empowerment, using our subtle senses (aka intuition) to inform our life’s choices.  All of my teachings hinge on this important and profound belief.

What does this mean for you?  It means that, when you learn to read Oracle Cards, or use a pendulum, or use muscle testing…  you ARE NOT transferring your power to the psychic tool!  That’s all they are, the cards, the pendulums, the crystals… they are tools to help you tune into and express your truth.  They are not the psychic, the oracle, the intuitive - YOU ARE.  So, if you’re afraid of tapping into your intuition, it is worthwhile to ask yourself what are you truly afraid of…  what personal truth have you been hiding from yourself and are reluctant to face?  In my students, it often looks like fear of rejection, fear of not conforming to a social/family norm, fear of not being able to handle heightened senses, fear of change, fear of letting go of that self-image that they worked so hard to create all their life in an effort to fit in…  It turns out that what they are really afraid of is not Spirit, or their Intuition…  they are afraid to give themselves permission to be who they truly are: an inspired, powerful, divine co-creator.  Can you breathe into that? Join the conversation in my Facebook group “Coming Out of the Spiritual Closet” and share how this applies to you.

Trust me, when you’re ready to accept the fact that you ARE a bit different than the norm; when you are ready to OWN that, and learn that you can happily live in society with your gifts; when you realize that the persona you built around your need to conform, be accepted or fit it is a mask - not your true self…   Phew!  That’s when inner peace can set in, and intuition can really kick in.

Next time, I’ll teach you how this important lesson translates into asking powerful and insightful intuitive questions.  I’ll tell you why it’s not the pendulum’s fault if you’re getting confused answers, and will give you tips to ensure you are getting the best possible intuitive answers.